Up to today, we still fight.
But I had an epiphany earlier this week when Cliff encouraged me by saying, “It’s not the presence of absence of conflicts that reflect the health of our marriage. It’s what we do with them, it’s how much we grow through them.”
He reminded me, that many “fight-less” marriages may seem peaceful, but are deeply unhealthy because of ill patterns of withdrawal and avoidance. On the other hand, marriages with regularly tiffs, quibbles and arguments (like ours!), can be a sign of growth, proactivity and eagerness to sow into the relationship.
Whatever you situation, I hope this encourages you, that we need not avoid fights. Rather, what we really need is to fight well. 🥊