I’m finally ready to admit that this is a life changing book that I’ve been savoring for the past few months.
Funny how I feel almost guilty for saying this— but research shows how narcissistic people don’t change, and it’s our hope for them to change that becomes so toxic to ourselves.
How then, can we as Christians, take the hope we have that God can do the impossible in our unhealthy relationships?
“Healing means not seeing yr vulnerabilities as weakness but rather as valuable and integral parts of you. Healing means acknowledging all parts of yourself but also giving yourself permission to be DISCERNING, SELF-PROTECTIVE AND AWARE.”
If there’s something I wish more to see in faith-based circles, is qualified people helping those stuck in real trauma find true healing- not by telling them blindly to “die to yourself and trust God to change the person” without actually understanding the extent of their trauma and pain, but to really understand the dynamics of narcissism and dole out advice with greater discernment, and deeper empathy.
This is a must read for anyone struggling and for those helping others stuck in vicious relationship cycles.
“You cannot change your backstory, but you can harness it to better understand when to slow down, pay attention, be kind to yourself and let go of self blame.”