Many thanks to @propelwomen for inviting me to write on this delicate topic- Will my career threaten my marriage?
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As a sole breadwinner wife who speaks publicly regularly and runs a nonprofit organization, married to a very muscular-and-masculine, Iron-Man-Finisher, stay-at-home-dad, I’ve had more than my fair share of unsolicited advice to shrink back from public leadership in order to “protect my marriage”.
Most of the time, I gently steer the conversation away.
But every now and then I feel compelled to explain: Both my husband and I have each wrestled with the Lord on this, we’re secure in what God has each called us to do this season, who He has made us to be. For us to solicit for or turn down ministry opportunities for fear of what other people might think of us… wouldn’t feel right.
In Sheryl Sandberg’s worldwide bestselling book “Lean In”, she writes, “The image of a happy couple still includes a husband who is more professionally successful than his wife. If the reverse occurs, it’s perceived as threatening to the marriage.”
When I read that, my jaw dropped. I was not the only one.
As a mother of two young daughters, I wanted to know for myself if I was really a Bible-rebelling, raging feminist inside, or if this fire within me had more to do with following God’s call, even if it pushes back against society’s cultural ideals.
If I had to give my daughters, whom I trust God to grow into bold women of God, advice about this, here’s what I’d tell them.
Thank you @propelwomen for inviting me to be a regular writer for women around the world, to activate every daughter of the King in her passion, purpose and potential.
And to @cliff.tam for always encouraging me to dream 🪁